A Gift of Dharma for 2.7.10
Today’s quote is another from the late Buddhist nun Ayya Khema (1923-1997), whom I previously quoted and wrote a little biography for in this post. This is it–from her book All of Us: Beset by Birth, Decay, and Death:
Everyone needs a good friend, who has enough selflessness, not only to be helpful, but also to point out when one is slipping. Treading the Dhamma path is like walking a tightrope. It leads along one straight line and every time one slips, one hurts. If we have a painful feeling inside, we’re no longer on the tightrope of the Dhamma. Our good friend (kalyana mitta)might say to us then: “You stepped too far to the right, or to the left, (whatever the case may be). You weren’t careful, that’s why you fell into depression and pain. I’ll point out to you when you’re slipping next time.” We can only accept this from someone whom we trust and have confidence in.
One can be fooled by a person’s beautiful words or splendid appearance. The character of a person is shown not only in words, but in the small day-to-day activities. One of the very important guidelines to a person’s character is how they react when things go wrong. It’s easy to be loving, helpful and friendly when everything goes well, but when difficulties arise our endurance and patience are being tested as well as our equanimity and determination. The less ego-consciousness one has, the easier one can handle all situations.
At first, when one starts to walk on the tightrope of the Dhamma path, it may feel uncomfortable. One isn’t used to balancing oneself, but rather to swaying all over the place, going in all directions, wherever it’s most comfortable. One may feel restricted and coerced, not being allowed to live according to one’s natural instincts. Yet in order to walk on a tightrope, one has to restrict oneself in many ways with mindfulness. These restrictions may at first feel irksome, like fetters or bonds, later they turn out to be the liberating factors.
To have this perfect jewel of the Dhamma in our hearts, we need to be awake and aware. Then we can prove by our own watchfulness that “the Dhamma of the Blessed One is perfectly expounded.” There is no worldly jewel that can match the value of the Dhamma. Each one of us can become the owner of this priceless gem. We can call ourselves most fortunate to have such an opportunity. When we wake up in the morning, let that be our first thought: “What good fortune it is for me to practice the Dhamma.”
